installed refit
installed boot camp
installed windows
instal ubunut  (wrong version
installed right version
uninstalled ubuntu, riped out partitions, instaled ubuntu
ubuntu asked me where to install grub. I don't know, install it in ubuntu partitino

codltn boot to windows, obviously tat wasn't the rigt choice
ripped out entire windows partitions using gparted, 
mac freaks out, windows installer (not the rght type of parittion
mac - partition map check failed because no slices were found

booted back into os x for the 100th time to try and get boot camp to recreate the partitions

boot camp complains 

booting to lion recovery failed 
failed 

oh lord.  I started taking pictures of this s#$@  this is ridiculous.  

after copiuos reading, decided to wipe the disk from the recovery usb thing. 
made a "time machine" backup and restored that.  that f'ing worked
also made a "recovery usb"

download refit
install refit.mpkg

reboot
refit, doesn't show up at first.
run /efi/refit/setup.sh, or reboot again

btw, it actually REQUIRES A WINDOWS CD BE TERE, THANK HEAVEN FOR MY EXTENRAL drive

the original prblem after having gparted remove my partitions was "windows cannot be installed to this partition" i think because it was a promary somehow.

don't delete partitions using gparted

now windows is booting by default, so, hold option, boot to os x
ran /efi/refit/enable.sh to get refit stuf to show up again (bless)

change "starup disk" in os x ss prefences to ms hd to use refit
ten had to run bloody refit again

Thank you.  holy crap.

make sure to set "nomodeset" on the installer.